Monday, May 08, 2006

Advice: Respect

Was it Aretha Franklin that sang the song? At any rate, heres something about respect snagged from elsewhere on the subject.

Respect Checklist

If you are in a relationship, you must be treated with respect, which means your boyfriend or girlfriend:
  • is willing to compromise
  • lets you feel comfortable being yourself
  • is able to admit to being wrong
  • tries to resolve conflict by talking honestly
  • enables you to feel safe being with them
  • respects your feelings, your opinions and your friends
  • accepts you saying no to things you don't want to do
  • accepts you changing your mind
  • respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship
When someone loves you, you feel valued, respected and free to be yourself. You shouldn't be made to feel intimidated or controlled.


Alas, interesting that the most often top things to ague and fight about are things in the list. Something I heard while living in the States is another line though:

Your right ends where someone else's begins.

There's another Phil Collins song that also gives great advice. For a time it made me realize that for all the inadequacies that I felt, it wasn't only me:

Somewhere down the road, you’re gonna find a place
It seems so far, but it never is
You won’t need to stay, but you might lose your strength
On the way

Sometimes you may feel you’re the only one
Cos all the things you thought were safe, now they’re gone
But you won’t be alone, I’ll be here to carry you along
Watching you ’til all your work is done

When you find your heart, you’d better run with it
Cos when she comes along, she could be breaking it
No there’s nothing wrong, you’re learning to be strong
Don’t look back
She may soon be gone, no don’t look back
She’s not the only one, remember that


If your heart is beating fast, then you know she’s right
If you don’t know what to say, well, that’s all right
You don’t know what to do?
Remember she is just as scared as you


Don’t be shy, even when it hurts to say
Remember, you’re gonna get hurt someday, anyway
Then you must lift your head, keep it there
Remember what I said

I’ll always be with you don’t forget
Just look over your shoulder I’ll be there.

If you look behind you, I will be there.

RED: Yeah, the story of my life or a decade of it. In a few lines, SERENITY

BLUE: This is what I was saying, mentioned above.

GREEN: Now, this is probably more about work. One word, INTEGRITY

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