Advice: Do you need counselling?

I snagged this from the BBC, and it considers whether when is the right time.

All relationships go through difficult times - it's how you handle those times that makes the difference between staying together and splitting up.

When's the right time?

One thing's for sure: counsellors rarely hear the complaint "It's too early for our relationship!" More often, what they hear is: "We've tried everything - counselling is our last resort."

Far too many couples leave counselling until it's too late. By the time of their first appointment, years of bitterness and resentment have built up and the fear of being hurt blocks out any chance of change.

If you're experiencing any of the following, now is the time to consider counselling:

• When you talk to your partner, it feels as though you're hitting a brick wall.
  
• Your conversations just go round and round in never-ending circles.
  
• After you've talked, you feel frustrated and confused.
  
• You can't talk for more than a few minutes without it turning into a shouting match.
  
• You're afraid that if you bring up a certain subject, things will get even worse.
  
• There's nothing left to say.

And so, what can be said about the short list? I unfortunately have to agree, given my background of experience. In retrospect though, some part of us already knows about the list. We're all just stuck in denial most of the time.

So lets digress into denial for a bit....

I think there's a lack of resonsbility in one's actions. For all the inability to act it could result in even more denial. Its a vicious cycle. Sometimes though, to be endured.

Life, alas ....